Considering the two activities you’ve just used above, notice that there’s only one reason you did the unpleasant thing: at some level you thought you had to. Maybe you did it out of fear, dreading what would happen if you didn’t. Maybe you were trying to please someone. Maybe you have a whole set of acculturated rules sunk so deep in your brain that it never occurred to you it might have been possible to avoid this activity you dislike.
