But an inability to notice one’s own behaviour contributes to the apparent infallibility of the tropes of our day. If we can’t even notice violence in ourselves, let alone root it out, how can we expect to dismantle it in the culture at large? It is relatively easy to spot and damn the exploitation of a cruel boss against their workforce. Harder to spot and damn the same exploitation in your own household; is there one partner who shoulders an unfair share of the housework? Childcare? Financial responsibilities? The greed, malice, pride and treachery of the times can be seen everywhere else,
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