Rather than trying to resolve the problem by deciding whether to go along or not, why not just name the dilemma? “Honey, I really appreciate what you’ve planned. It shows me how much you care that I’ve had a tough week. But I’m so exhausted and don’t want to go along just because of your effort. Could we figure out something that would work for both of us?” That opens up a range of possibilities that could meet both parties’ needs.
