when this imbalance happens, the only productive way forward is to directly face these changes, understand their impact, and jointly explore how to address them. Reassessing relationship agreements isn’t simple. It’s apt to result in change, and change often triggers resistance: How is this going to turn out? Will I have to give up something that is really important to me or incur a cost I’m not prepared to pay? It also brings unpredictability (How are you going to respond?) and perhaps guilt or recrimination (Why did we not do this before?).
