He was in the kitchen making a cup of coffee and was about to leave when Eva said (with some heat), “Why did you leave the dirty spoon on the counter? Can’t you put it away?” It would have been easy for him to say, “What’s the big deal about one lousy spoon? And anyway, I clean up a lot of things.” Fortunately, he didn’t, because the issue wasn’t the dirty spoon. Rather, it was about what it stood for.
