Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them

by Karl Pillemer

then I would say don’t give too much, don’t burn yourself out. You have to value your own personal health and well-being at a certain point.

Offering one more chance on their own terms allowed the relationship to continue, alleviated guilt, eliminated anticipated regret, and relieved anxiety.

If you have a relative desperate to reconnect, offer one last chance; if you are offered one last chance, take it.

Most important, however, is this: The suffering experienced by many people who have been cut off is barely imaginable to someone who has not experienced it.

As I listened to the reconcilers, I had a revelation: They are not talking about a single event, but rather of reconciliation as a discipline.

discipline is a developmental pathway in which

“Peace in society depends on peace in the family.” Practicing the discipline of reconciliation is a small step we can take to create harmony in our own families while growing as human beings. If you agree, then it’s probably time to take a chance.

Lovely

My wife, Clare McMillan, provided her stellar editorial skills and her enthusiastic support, as well as came up with the book’s title.

Great!