The reconcilers’ message is clear: The passage of time and shifting circumstances may have profoundly changed the relative. The irresponsible person who let you down again and again may have become more reliable; the angry person may have mellowed; the harsh parent may be experiencing remorse over his or her behavior. After years, you may find a relationship partner who comes closer to your values. Expect the unexpected: Many reconcilers found that the estrangement had brought about important changes, allowing for reconciliation to take place.
