if you want to reconcile with somebody who hasn’t changed and hasn’t grown, or who’s not emotionally very healthy, you just have to accept them how they are. Accept that you’re never going to have that perfect relationship that you might be hoping for. You have to be okay with whatever relationship you get, and then do the best you can to protect yourself. But at least open the door for that relationship. It’s important to have a realistic sense of what might be possible and not to be hoping for something that never will be.
