if there’s any chance of reconciliation with a child, I don’t see putting stipulations down. As the parent, you have to take the high road, in my opinion. And I don’t know a nice way to put it: You may have to eat dirt in order to move forward. I know a lot of people refuse to give in. “I will not apologize; I will not do this or that.” But you’ve got to give in to get ahead, if that’s what you really want.