is less than ideal, arguing that you are selling yourself short if you do so. Similarly, the legion of life coaches tells you not to settle for an unfulfilling job. They urge you to keep looking until you find a career that aligns with your hopes and dreams. If you subscribe to such views, I am going to ask you to suspend them when you think about reconciliation. In most cases, both parties have to settle for less than they desired to restore the relationship. As I analyzed the interviews of individuals who reconnected, as well as those whose reconciliation attempts had failed, one clear piece
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