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My mom asked us to help her next time she got frustrated or upset like this. We brainstormed together, and decided that next time we could loudly yell “WHOOP!” After the whoop, she might think to enter an introspective state (the whoop state) and try processing the experience.
Love this, try with kids? Ties into parenting jolt/redirection and sounds more fun!
You can become very skilled at introspection and still allow yourself to get worked up sometimes. You do not need to always mechanically control your thoughts.
Delicate balance here
I also distinguish between many types of tired (physically tired, sleepy-tired, socially drained, and focused-for-too-long drained).
Subtle. Not-enough-alone-time is huge
Rumination is focusing on the causes and consequences of a problem, instead of on its potential solutions.
New meaning to me
Reading fiction helps you imagine how other people think. Fiction books give you the opportunity to peer inside another person’s mind.
Le guin quote about fiction being better than experience
Some studies show that people who have recently read books with “high emotional transportation” have greater empathy than those who read something without high emotional transportation1.
Neat and unsurprising!
The next time you are trying to describe your emotions, whether to yourself or to someone else, try using a reference. You may find a certain word that is a little more accurate than what you would think of naturally.
Brain science podcast - name it to tame it
P. Matthijs Bal and Martijn Veltkamp, “How Does Fiction Reading Influence Empathy? An Experimental Investigation on the Role of Emotional Transportation,” PloS One 8, no. 1 (2013): e55341, https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0055341↩︎
This sounds like a good read
Communicating Validation
This whole section is understandably a giant "it depends"
