our lack of general discussion about life transitions has left a lot of us unprepared for what they mean. The simple fact is, three-quarters of the hundreds of people I spoke with said their life transition took four years or longer. And many people used these figures apologetically, as if to suggest they were somehow outliers. The opposite is true. Also, once they learned that they were in good company, they felt relieved. To me, the issue is not how long transitions take, it’s how long we expect them to take. The burden is on us to adjust our expectations.
