Queer observers of heterosexual misery don’t always know how to feel about straight women’s suffering. Perhaps it is their own private business; perhaps everything is fine as long as straight women, themselves, are willing to forgive the men in their lives. And perhaps queers are doing no better, as many of us also lie, cheat, and engage in no end of painful behavior. But the thing about heterosexual misery that makes it irreducible to basic human foible is that straight relationships are rigged from the start. Straight culture, unlike queer culture, naturalizes and often glorifies men’s
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I wonder if Jane Ward replaced "lesbian" with "queer" in sections like this to make it seem more universal and relatable? I have very few heterosexual friends, so most of my observations of this behavior comes from my observations of queer-identified women who exclusively date men. They are still queer. This obfuscates what Ward misrepresents as a clear divide between "queerness" and "straightness" irt women's relationships with men.
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