if it is true that desire for sex with men is powerful enough for some women that it makes heterosexuality more desirable than queerness or asexuality, then this is itself an amazing fact—one that intervenes in the oft-cited notion that women care more about emotional connection than they do about sex. For straight feminist women, even this assertion—“I am in it for the dick,” as one straight friend told me—is an important first step toward deromanticizing women’s gendered suffering and exposing the cost-benefit analysis that is part of any heterosexual encounter under patriarchy.
