They offered several examples of these differences: men know right away if they are attracted to women, but women’s desire builds in response to social cues;22 men just want to be happy all the time and live in the “high,” but women want a fuller range of emotions and a compelling journey; men are “hunters” who measure success by external accomplishment, whereas women measure experiences by their emotional depth; men want to solve problems and be heroes, but women want to be heard and to share intimate experiences.