Savvy Sheldon Feels Good as Hell

by Taj McCoy

If it’s eaten straight from the pan, it has no calories. These are the Bacon Rules.

As steam spread across the bathroom mirror, he called out to her, “You should probably see if you can take them clothes back. Fit’s too tight.”

This guy is a dick.

Her voice took on a pleading tone that had become all too familiar; one that she never had before him.

“Now don’t take this the wrong way, but I think it’s time I start looking for an upgrade.”

WTF

the only thing that’s changed these last few years is your weight going in the wrong direction. I’m about forward progress, and you no longer fit my plan. Literally.”

Girl, kick his ass out NOW. He wants to finish the meal and says that shit?!

she was not the friend to watch a Law & Order marathon with—she’d ruin the suspense by telling you everything procedurally wrong with the arrests.

Love it

Her shyness about her body had turned into ignoring it completely until she was forced to buy new clothes.

Or maybe her shyness led to feeling unnecessary shame, and then kept her from a fuller life. She went to Maui but stayed on a towel, when she'd have rather done things but was embarrassed for people to see her outside of a huge t-shirt and a very long sarong.

But why even bother focusing this on him?” She looked at her friend. “None of us has confidence one hundred percent of the time, Savs. Sometimes, you just have to fake it till you make it.”

“You two are more than I deserve sometimes. Real talk.” “You never think you deserve good things, and that’s a part of the problem.

thinking back to when she had the body of an athlete; when she could run miles without having to be chased by a mass murderer for motivation.

My girl!!!

“Will you calm down?” Nikki scowled. “Well, I’m sorry, but I’m mad as hell. Savvy over here tryin’ to be all mature about this shit. I’m prepared to be ignorant enough for the both of us, girl.”

I honestly love the support from other women that we see.

She couldn’t believe she’d actually passed out, tumbling over onto her side.

Totally understandable. And the instructor did push a bit.

She couldn’t do all of the poses, and the room still smelled like a high school locker room, but the end of the class felt different. Savvy left the studio with a calm that quieted her anxieties.

I want that feeling and ability to do yoga.

“Now take a moment to honor yourselves and this step forward in your practice. Let go of what didn’t work, where you struggled, where you weren’t perfect. Honor yourself, thank yourself, accept yourself where you are right now.”

Accept yourself in this moment. Be generous to yourself today.”

Beth watched Joanie with something more than admiration, taking in the way that her muscles tightened, how quick she was on her feet,

The support between the women is great and it's also very effortless how there are two black lesbians at the start of a relationship.

“I was lost in that man. I never changed anything about myself because I never really looked at those decisions as my own. I don’t even know if I recognized my own opinion while I was with him.”

“Let’s make the goal for you to love yourself exactly where you are right now. No matter what change you make to the exterior, Savvy, you are who you are on the inside. The outsides are just window dressings.”

This whole journey isn’t about revenge. It isn’t about Jason at all. It’s about you feeling good and doing the things you love because you’ve gotta love you before you can love anyone else. Only you can decide when you’re ready, Savs.”

This idea of loving yourself before others love you is bullshit.

I will not allow myself to feel guilty for self-indulgence or self-care. I will live in the moment and spoil myself if I so choose. I will not be concerned with anyone’s timeline or expectations but my own. Before Savvy takes care of everyone else, Savvy takes care of Savvy.

After focusing on her breath for several minutes, she let her mind cycle through thoughts that played at the edges of her peace. Savvy let each thought come to her slowly, as if for permission, and then followed each thought down their respective rabbit holes.

Savvy’s Self-Care Plan: 1. Meditate daily. 2. Tennis and yoga as often as possible. 3. Be kind to yourself. 4. Give yourself a day of pampering each month. 5. Journal more. 6. Let yourself be a priority. 7. Live in the present moment. 8. Work smarter.

There are no limitations here, Savvy. Only the ones you put on yourself.”