It frees you up to love others as they are, not as a steward of your safety and wellbeing, but as themselves, human and imperfect beings. And it frees the other person up to be himself. That person may be in a bad mood one day. It happens. But it doesn’t threaten your safety because you will be fine. That person may have had a very difficult experience. You can be there for him, because his experience doesn’t threaten yours. You can be there as a resource. You can trust that he will make it through. You don’t need to fall apart on his behalf. You can trust his process. You are free. Things may
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