We can’t change anything that the other person does. We wish we could, and we spend a lot of energy on changing others. We explain. We label them with names and couch diagnoses. We beg. We threaten. Oh, what don’t we do when we are in a relationship with someone we wish would be behaving differently! But that’s not within our ability. As humans, we can only change ourselves. There is power in that recognition. Yes, it feels pointless. I’m not the one who needs to change. He’s the one who is causing all this heartache.
