These ideals exist to set our priorities for us and to keep us busy, distracted, and feeling apologetic about our needs. But we don’t have to measure ourselves against these unfair yardsticks. If we take a step back and really reflect on all of the things society tells us we “should” be doing, we may find that many of them don’t line up with who we are at all. We shouldn’t have to struggle to make ourselves palatable, understandable, and small. Resisting these “shoulds” makes us strong, not lazy.
