“The other evening I was feeling anxious, and Rich was feeling anxious. We were doing things around the house, and I just said to him, I think we’re about to get into a fight,” Julie tells me. “I could feel this tension building up between us, and I thought, What if I just acknowledged that out loud?” As soon as Julie observed the anger building up, she and Rich were able to defuse it. “Rich was like, I don’t want to fight,” Julie says. “And I told him, I don’t want to fight either.
