when you find yourself inclined toward judgment, try reflecting on why a person might do the things they do. Here are some questions to ask yourself: What need are they trying to meet by acting this way? What challenges or barriers are getting in the way of their making a change? What hidden struggles (such as physical disability, mental illness, trauma, or oppression) might explain the difficulties they’re facing? Who might have taught them to act this way? Do they have other options? Are those options really attainable for them?
