We want to be clear, however, that we are not big fans of terms that soft-pedal or negate the main concepts being presented here. Your selves are not merely moods, urges, or whims, and to integrate a self against its will is not a benign act. The bottom line is that a single, consistent, unitary self is almost never the way things are. We do not experience ourselves or other people in this single-minded way, nor do other people experience us that way either.
