Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

by Emily Nagoski

In reality, about a quarter of women orgasm reliably with intercourse. The other 75 percent sometimes, rarely, or never orgasm with intercourse,

Instead, she may experience “responsive” desire, in which her desire emerges only in a highly erotic context.

Medieval anatomists called women’s external genitals the “pudendum,” a word derived from the Latin pudere, meaning “to make ashamed.”