when the context is right, you long to welcome someone into your garden. When you do, remember that they are used to working in their own garden, and their garden is different from yours. Their body, their brakes and accelerator, the seeds that their family and culture planted, the way they were taught to tend the garden, may be similar to yours, or they may be totally different. If you and your partner are different from each other, remember that neither of you is better or worse—even if one of you conforms more to the cultural standard.
