The standard narrative of sexual desire is that it just appears—you’re sitting at lunch or walking down the street, maybe you see a sexy person or think a sexy thought, and pow! you’re saying to yourself, “I would like some sex!” That’s Olivia’s usual style. That’s “spontaneous” desire. But some people find that they begin to want sex only after sexy things are already happening. Rather than eagerly anticipating sex, they might have a pragmatic motivation for showing up at 7 p.m. on Saturday night, because date night is on their calendar. They put their bodies in the bed, let their skin touch
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