How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

by Nicole LePera

The familiar feels safe; that is, until we teach ourselves that discomfort is temporary and a necessary part of transformation.

Emotional addiction is particularly powerful when we habitually seek or avoid certain emotional states as a way to cope with trauma.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS

“We do not remember days, we remember moments.”

You may label these thoughts as “you,” but they are not you.

You are the thinker of your thoughts, not the thoughts themselves.

There is tremendous freedom in not believing every thought we have and understanding

Trauma occurred when we consistently betrayed ourselves for love, were consistently treated in a way that made us feel unworthy or unacceptable resulting in a severed connection to our authentic Self. Trauma creates the fundamental belief that we must betray who we are in order to survive.