How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

by Nicole LePera

That’s why no one ever listens to others. Because if what you believe is who you are, there is no space for conversation or contemplation. There

This is why judging others is so addictive; it relieves us from the ego’s internal struggle with shame. When we identify the faults of others, we can ignore our own and even convince ourselves that we are superior.

Many of us can’t even think about returning to that state of vulnerability because our ego is so sensitive, so focused on trying to keep us safe and secure, that the story of who we are is bound to the opposition of the “other.”

regarding being healed from the us against them mentality.

Those who never fight or disagree are actually locked in a dysregulated system that is artificially hampering their stress.