Like the high-maintenance girl who thinks she’s easygoing, I thought I had very high perceptual intelligence. I could sense when people were mad, upset, or uncomfortable, and I was quick to adjust my actions to make them happy. What I didn’t realize, however, were two vital things: It wasn’t my job to make everyone happy, and not everyone was always as uncomfortable or upset as I thought they were. As often as I was right, I was just projecting onto them and then creating my own discomfort.
