Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions

by Johann Hari

loneliness is “an aversive state that motivates us to reconnect.”

To end loneliness, you need other people—plus something else. You also need, he explained to me, to feel you are sharing something with the other person, or the group, that is meaningful to both of you. You have to be in it together—and “it” can be anything that you both think has meaning and value.