Responsibility Rebellion: An Unconventional Approach to Personal Empowerment

by Kain Ramsay

Mastering yourself means being able to see things more clearly and accepting that your concept of ‘reality’ is nothing more than your perceptions of it.

No truly confident or secure person ever feels superior to another, because their sense of self and worth isn’t dependent upon a comparison. They had developed a self-sufficient validation system.

Becoming mindful and aware of your innate tendency to choose pleasure and instant gratification over hard work and discomfort is the first step in the process of personal mastery.

Every time you choose to do something in life, you are choosing not to do something else. This is known as opportunity cost

Because change always requires time, energy, effort, reduction, and elimination, people facing the concept of change equate it to a loss rather than a gain, thus leading them to procrastinate on instigating any kind of change.

What can I do to change my opinion of me? What do I have to change to convince myself I’m not what I think I am?

what can I do, say or think that will impress, please, and satisfy me?

Despite what you’ve told yourself a billion times throughout your life, you are more than capable of being what you think you aren’t and you have to prove yourself wrong with baby steps.

In other words, people don’t remember what you did as much as how you made them feel.

You are the greatest expert of your experiences, feelings, values, and thoughts.

The Quality of Your Relationships Determines the Quality of Your Life

Stop giving your power away and stop measuring yourself against other people’s standards.

Jim Rohn (one of my heroes growing up) once said, ‘Look, if you want things to change, YOU have to change. If you change, everything will change for you. Don’t wait for things to change.’ Everything begins with you: who you are and how you think is entirely within your realm of control.

There are always going to be judgmental, negative people who will gossip, spread rumours, and belittle you. These people are called jerks, and you don’t need to appease or be liked by jerks in life. Hell, you shouldn’t even want to be.

Confidence is about becoming comfortable with your story and with who you are today, regardless of all external opinion and matter, including your past foibles.

‘You’ve changed.’ It’s strange how such a small and benign statement can feel so painful.

‘You’ve changed’ is a loaded statement, and it’s not usually intended as a positive one. It’s usually a coded way of saying ‘You’re not the person I remember, and I don’t like that. You’re not what I expect you to be like, and I’m not sure I want to know this version of you.’

Growing apart is healthier than not growing at all.

What I learned through my personal experience was that the people who I thought I needed in life weren’t who I needed at all.

Marge to Lisa: But…I could give piano lessons! Lisa: But you don’t play the piano… Marge: I just gotta stay one lesson ahead of the kid!

You’ve probably met a few know-it-alls in your life: those people who regurgitate information for the sake of showing off.

you’re either going to have to work with the strengths you have or accept that you cannot be part of certain environments because you’re unwilling to be part of them.

You’ll find that you’ll become more productive and effective in life when you stop trying to get it right and just start giving your best.

What inspires you and sparks creativity, and what drains you? Knowing who you are willing to become for yourself and other people helps you identify what you are and are not willing to change about yourself. You know deep down who you need to become in order to get the results you want in life. You know what actions that version of you needs to take, what thoughts you invest in, and how you manage your relationships and emotions.