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We offend people by forgetting names and promises,
I have problems remembering names and few forgive me.
“ADHD” is a term that describes a way of being in the world. It is neither entirely a disorder nor entirely an asset. It is an array of traits specific to a unique kind of mind. It can become a distinct advantage or an abiding curse, depending on how a person manages it.
We’ve got an overabundance of attention, more attention than we can cope with; our constant challenge is to control it.
But Hank is also tortured, and that’s not too strong a word for the mental miseries he endures. He spends chunks of time—fifteen minutes here, an hour there, sometimes an entire Saturday morning and even longer—brooding. Troubling, jagged thoughts, images, ideas, and feelings pop up unimpeded in his mind like rocks in a river’s current as he desperately tries to steady his mental raft. They keep on coming, smashing against his mind over and over while he bravely tries to survive another trip down the relentlessly moving rapids within.
This is me.
It can seriously affect schoolwork, your job, your relationships, and your overall feeling of well-being.
Another extremely common problem when caught in the DMN is what we call “pirouette syndrome,” a circling back to make sure you’ve done something you’ve already done.
I do this.
How would the Chinese take to my saying that since computers memorize better than humans, teachers ought to emphasize the development of the imagination in children instead of rote memorization?
During my years caring for patients, the most common pathology I saw was not heart disease or diabetes; it was loneliness. Loneliness and weak social connections are associated with a reduction in lifespan similar to that caused by smoking fifteen cigarettes a day and even greater than that associated with obesity. Loneliness is also associated with a greater risk of cardiovascular disease, dementia, depression, and anxiety. At work, loneliness reduces task performance, limits creativity, and impairs other aspects of executive function such as reasoning and decision making. For our health and
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Amen!
The single most important factor in predicting health, longevity, occupational success, income, leadership ability, and general happiness comes down to one four-letter word. “It’s love,” Vaillant famously stated. “Full stop.”
We know all too well that you sink without enough connection, no matter how unsinkable you may think you are.
Minimize your consumption of news if it tends to upset you or rile you up.
As Oscar Wilde said, a cynic is one who “knows the price of everything, and the value of nothing.”
Armed with awareness of your strengths, you’re ready for the next test, one of the most powerful you can take, even if you’ve never heard of it: the Kolbe Index.
My unfair advantages.
People with attention issues tend to have acute bullshit detectors. We hate hypocrisy maybe more than any other human failing, and we can spot it a mile away.
True. I have had a few bosses who are this way.
And it’s not good for partner or spousal dynamics to ask another person to be the perpetual nag.
The Socratic method of teaching. That is, dialogue and asking/answering questions to get to information. A top-down, I lecture/you listen structure is not compatible with the ADHD mind.
Workspace configuration that encourages connecting with others.
No!
how to practice sleep hygiene
Also, many school administrators recognize the importance of good old-fashioned recess and are protecting that free time—on the grounds that it improves learning and behavior—from those who would do away with it in the name of more class time.
