“It is because of you I do this,” she allows, “but not the way you think. I want you to know you can fight. I want you to know you should fight. You will be treated carelessly and cruelly, unfairly and maliciously, shortsightedly and selfishly in this world, and when you are, I want you to know you do not have to take it like you deserve nothing better and you’re powerless to protest. I want you to know you can win.” Another impossible paradox: how to show your children they can keep getting up when all they ever see is the part where you fall.