Beating yourself up over it will not help. Stand up straight and look at yourself. You were never meant to be like a frog in hiding, in fear of life and afraid to either move or stand still. This is a spiritual matter, but you need to be brave and strong in your everyday life too. I would do many things to please my friends, but I would not risk going to hell just to please them. It may be very well to do this and that for the sake of staying on good terms with people, but it is never worth doing something that would injure your friendship with God.
"the Holy Spirit can cast out the evil spirit of the fear of man. He can make the coward brave. Remember, my poor vacillating friend, you must not remain in this state. It will never do to be mean and beggardly to yourself. Stand upright and look at yourself, and see if you were ever meant to be like a toad under a harrow, afraid for your life, either to move or to stand still. Do have a mind of your own. This is not a spiritual matter only, but one which concerns ordinary manliness. I would not do many things things to please my friends, but to go to hell to please them is more than i would venture. It may be very well to do this and that for good fellowship, but it will never do to lose the friendship of God in order to keep on good terms with men."
