How to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

by Ben Aldridge

Stoicism’s golden rule: The only thing you have control over is how you respond to external events

It’s all about how you respond to the world around you – this is your choice. The Stoics accepted that you have little or no control over external events. Life is very unpredictable and the unexpected happens all the time. For

“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” Epictetus

You are always in control of your reaction no matter what happens to you. This is your responsibility and being in control gives you power. Accepting what you can’t control and what you can is hugely important.

Buddhism’s golden rule: Our mind is the source of our suffering

Our minds are responsible for how we feel about everything. We can easily create unpleasant situations out of nothing (although it might not seem like nothing in the heat of the moment). Our minds are incredibly powerful and we must never forget this.

I feel this concept is all about alleviating the suffering in your life and becoming a master of accepting things. If you can be content with whatever situation you are in, even if this situation is absolutely awful, then this is an “enlightened” mindset. How

CBT’s golden rule: Change the way you think and you will change the way you feel

CBT has two clear steps to help you change your thinking: Step 1: Become conscious of your thinking. Step 2: Use logic to challenge your thoughts.

The more you pick at negative thoughts and feed them with your attention, the stronger they get. The goal is to stop adding fuel to the fire. However, to do this you need to acknowledge negative thoughts and stare them in the eyes.

The Mindset golden rule: There are two mindsets – Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset

“It’s all in how you perceive it. You’re in control. You can dispense with misperception at will, like rounding the point. Serenity, total calm, safe anchorage.”

“success is the result of how many times you’re willing to fail”. This

It really was as simple as throwing enough time at what I wanted to learn.

“Good luck hides within bad luck.” There is always something good within something bad and it requires us to adjust the way that we view things to understand this.