Throughout this book I have had two voices in my head: in one ear, the plea of the adult child to be understood and cared about, to assert their need and right to end a relationship with a parent who—however mystifying to the mother or father—they believe harmful to their well-being. I hear a request to not oversimplify their struggles and their aspirations for a life more in line with their values and feelings; and to not cast that aspiration in the simple and harsh light of overentitlement or selfishness. In the other ear is the parent who feels unjustly cast off, denied a life with children
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