duty, however problematic those may also be, but rather upon the way that the relationship makes the other feel about him or herself. In contrast to prior generations, conflict is no longer seen as an unavoidable, and perhaps even necessary, component of family life, but rather a referendum on each person: Does my parent limit my potential? My happiness? My distinctiveness? What does it say about me to stay in contact? To end contact? What kind of person does that make me?
