He is not just pulling himself away from the center of the group; he is pulling the whole group off center. An unrepentant member endangers the group, and it’s not just the group’s reputation at risk. Even our culture recognizes that one bad apple can spoil the whole bunch. This person’s behavior could contaminate and mislead others in the group: “our” group could become confused about what our values are. It’s not me; it’s we. Matthew 18 offers an example of shame used appropriately. This is a far cry from the misuse of shame, which tends to apply the maximum amount of exposure and does not
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