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Healing for me meant getting myself together enough to learn from this big hurtful thing that had happened. In
this experience, I learned that we don’t own people. We can’t stop anyone from hurting or disappointing us. And even those we love will make mistakes and let us down.
No relationship is perfect and they aren’t all worth repair, but finding the discernment to push through and gain insight from our experiences and connections can be where we find ...
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Unlearning unhealthy patterns and habits is difficult, but relearning how to do things differently and for the better can feel like an even bigger task to tackle.
no relationship is without its challenges, even if it looks ideal from the outside.
Loss taught us how to stick it out when we wanted to quit. It showed us the importance of partnership and patience, of being mad as hell at the universe and God and sometimes at each other, but still doing our best to love fiercely through the storm anyway.
to prepare for the rainbows, because you never know when one will catch your eye and capture your heart.
Destruction always seems easier than the work of reassembling and acknowledging the very stories that break us down.
It takes profound introspection and personal hard work to dismantle suffering. Breaking the chains of unhealthy cycles begins with acceptance.
Practicing acceptance shows me that the baggage of others, even adult children, isn’t mine to bear.
The only way I could heal was to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate what is, not what was.
We can’t make people love us, see us, talk to us, or understand us.
Acceptance isn’t rooted in trying to force others to be cognizant of their actions, or demanding that they show up in ways they aren’t capable
of. It’s the practice of doing our own personal work when it comes to being in relationships with people.
Being silent doesn’t solve conflict, problems, or hurt feelings. If anything, it can make things worse and harder to recover from. When silence is used as a power move to
express resentment and disdain, or to oppress another,
no one...
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Silence and rejection do nothing but distract from the main thing most of us yearn for: love, compassion, and community.
The pain from old wounds sometimes lingers, clings to you like a second skin that you can’t seem to outgrow.
the goal isn’t to escape, become numb, or ignore what hurts or haunts. It’s to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate all that comes with the ebb and flow of healing.
You are not who you used to be. You’re more than your mistakes. Your past was practice, and everything you’ve walked through has helped get you to where you are today.
No matter how strenuous life gets, keep trusting your ability to emerge like the sun after a storm.
Every piece of pain you’ve felt has prepared you for the moments in your healing where you have to show up fully.
You are not broken. You are always whole, even when things feel like they’re falling apart. And to those who have hurt you, splintered your heart, made you feel small, and rejected you—offer them mercy so that you can learn what true freedom feels like.
You are worthy of everything good you thought you weren’t.
You are valuable and deserve to be held in a space of lightness and empathy. Allow your pain to teach you that it never lasts as long as we think.
You do not need outside validation to be happy, free, and authentic.
