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The fact that you are imperfect is not a sign that you have failed; it is a sign that you are human,
mountain is the block between you and the life you want to live.
it is not the mountain that you must master, but yourself.
self-sabotage is almost always at work.
Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs,
What you believe about your life is what you will make true about your life.
Maybe that’s why you prefer the comfort of what you’ve known to the vulnerability of what you don’t,
The greatest act of self-love is to no longer accept a life you are unhappy with.
No matter what it takes, I will never accept my life getting to this point again.
Self-sabotage is when you have two conflicting desires. One is conscious, one is unconscious.
Resistance is what happens when we have a new project that we need to work on and simply can’t bring ourselves to do it. It’s
we are tapping into a part of ourselves that is trying to thrive instead of just survive, and the unfamiliarity can be daunting.
Resistance is your way of slowing down and making sure that it’s safe to get attached to something new and important.
Resistance is not the same thing as procrastination
We have to get clear on what we want as well as when and why we want it.
Your upper limit is essentially the amount of “good” that you’re comfortable having in your life. It is your tolerance and threshold for having positive feelings or experiencing
By taking it slow, you are allowing yourself to gradually reinstate a new comfort zone around what you want your life to be.
uprooting means you are always just beginning your new chapter but never really finishing it.
It’s about getting clear and determined on what’s the right path for you and then making a plan for how you can thrive, not just survive.
just keep showing up
progress. Instead of having something done perfectly, focus on just getting it done.
life is ultimately measured by your outcomes, not your intentions.
It’s no longer about how many days you really wanted to go to the gym; it’s about how many days you did. It’s no longer about wanting to show up for your friends; it’s whether or not you did. It’s no longer about the great ideas you had about how to change your business; it’s about whether or not you did.
Do I actually want to do this? Do you want the job, or do you just like how the title sounds?
You are more aware of what you don’t want than what you do.
focusing on what you hope doesn’t happen than you do imagining, strategizing, and planning for what you do.
You spend more time trying to impress people who don’t like you than you spend with people who love you for who you are.
You care more about convincing other people you’re okay than actually being okay.
Your main priority in life is to be liked, even if that comes at the expense of being happy.
You’re more afraid of your feelings than anything else.
fear of whether or not you will be able to handle your own emotions, you are the one standing in your own way—nothing
You’re blindly chasing goals without asking yourself why you want those things.
You value your doubt more than your potential.
You are trying to care about everything.
You don’t realize how far you’ve come.
When you find the same root cause for everything, you’ve found a core commitment.
The less that you feed your core need, the “louder” your core commitment symptoms will be.
motivation is the fact that you want to live a different and better existence,
We are held back because we don’t feel like making change, and so we don’t.
emotions are always valid and need to be validated, they are hardly ever an accurate measure of what you are capable of in life.
Taking action builds momentum and creates motivation.
Instead of being afraid of anger, we can instead use it to help us see our limits and priorities more clearly. We can also use it to help us make big, important changes both for ourselves and the world around us.
Sadness only becomes problematic when we do not allow ourselves to go through the natural phases of grief.
crying at appropriate times is one of the biggest signs of mental strength, as people who are struggling often find it difficult to release their feelings and be vulnerable.
Guilt tends to affect us more for what we didn’t do than what we did.
Guilt is often an emotion we carry from childhood and then project onto current circumstances
Jealousy is a cover-up emotion. It presents as anger or judgment, when in reality it is sadness and self-dissatisfaction.
When we are in a state of fearful thinking, it doesn’t matter what we are afraid of; the thought process follows us from problem to problem.
The truth is that when we stop being afraid of what we cannot control and know instead that nothing can possibly ruin our lives more than we are ruining them with our negative, distracted, and irrational thinking and focus, we are completely freed.
The way you are self-sabotaging: Feeling unhappy, even if nothing is wrong, and really, you’ve gotten everything you’ve wanted in life. What your subconscious mind might want you to know: You are probably expecting outside things to make you feel good rather than relying on changing how you think and what you focus on. No outward accomplishment is going to give you a true and lasting sense of inner peace, and your discomfort, despite your accomplishments,
