I thought everything needed to be settled. I thought those who did wrong things would first realize they were wrong. Or, at least some kind of justice would tilt my upside-down world back in place. And something about this would feel fair. Then, I would consider forgiveness. And then I could possibly heal. But, as my counselor kept talking, I started to realize I might never feel like things were fair. Even if every best-case scenario played out with the people who hurt me suddenly being utterly repentant and owning every bit of all they’d done, that wouldn’t undo what happened. That wouldn’t
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