It used to be that kind of triggered emotion would have derailed our entire conversation. I would have wrongly attached to Art the feelings of hurt caused by my friend and gotten all entangled in chaos. Chances are, we would have both left the conversation hurt. He would have personalized my stirred-up emotions. I would have resented him for not being more understanding. We would have wasted so much energy playing right into the enemy’s plans to cause division between us. But now we know how to avoid that.
