Yes, there is a cause and effect here. That person who hurt me may be the cause of the pain. But they are not capable of being the healer of my pain. Or the restorer of my life. This is where my healing fell apart time and time again. Blame hands the power to change over to the person who hurt me. It says, as long as they refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done as wrong, I feel powerless to change. Or, even if they do acknowledge what they did as wrong, if the wrong isn’t made right, life will forever feel different, which also makes me feel powerless to change.
