I had never made the connection before that Art and I were good at playing our roles and doing what was expected but we lacked the kind of depth needed for real emotional intimacy. He grew up in a house where feelings weren’t expressed. So he learned to keep secrets. I grew up in a house where every feeling was not just expressed but declared loudly and processed loudly. Secrets were kept, but they always found their way out in moments of emotional explosions and bold declarations. I couldn’t understand why he was so quiet. He couldn’t understand why I was so loud. We were just two people
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