Processing through all of this takes time. So much time. But the secret to my own processing was threefold: pain, acceptance, and perspective. The pain was me expressing everything that happened and how it made me feel. This is what I did in collecting the dots. Acceptance was acknowledging that the permanent ink is now dry on those pages of my story. I cannot change what happened. This is what I did in connecting the dots. And from those connections, I started to see new perspectives, which helped me correct some of the dots. There are still new pages to be written in the story of my life,
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