Grief is devastating no matter how it comes. But when there’s a person or people whose choices struck the match igniting the grief? It’s only natural to clench your jaw when you think of what happened. And maybe it seems like you think of what happened all the time. Or at least so much of the time you wonder if you’ll ever, ever stop having that deep-aching, off-kilter feeling. That throbbing heartbreak bubbling with an equal mix of anxiety, unanswered questions, and suspicion that really no one in the world is truly safe anymore.