I fear the offense will be repeated. •Hanging on to a grudge gives me a sense of control in a situation that’s felt so unfair. •The pain I experienced altered my life, and yet no one has ever validated that what I went through was wrong. •Forgiveness feels like it trivializes, minimizes, or, worse yet, makes what happened no big deal. •I can’t possibly forgive when I still feel so hostile toward the one who hurt me. •I’m not ready to forgive. •I still feel hurt.
