Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again

by Lysa TerKeurst

time to call it what it is and start clearing it away. You can take what’s not broken from among its piles. Not everything is awful inside your memory files. You must empty enough so you can shift from griever to receiver. There’s new to be found. The new healing you discover will be wonderful, but it probably won’t give you answers for why all this hurt happened. Making peace with the past doesn’t mean that you’ll ever be able to make sense of what happened. Good thing there’s something better than answers. To get better you don’t have to know why. Why they hurt you, why they misunderstood you, why they betrayed you, why they didn’t love you, protect you, or stay like they should. Their reasons are multilayered with a mysterious mix of their own pain. They are dealing with their own heartbreak and their own soul wrestling. And in the end, I don’t think they even know all the reasons they made the choices they did. Knowing why is no gift at all if it never makes sense. Maybe they loved themselves too much or much too little. Maybe their hearts were too disconnected or hard or brittle. Soft hearts don’t break or beat or belittle, but broken hearts with unhealed pasts can often be found traveling wrong paths. They hurt, they sting, they