Of all the things I’d been accused of throughout my life, not being gay enough was never one I saw coming. My initial reaction was disbelief. I’d been getting death threats. Was having to install a special security system on my house so I didn’t get murdered in the night by people who hated me simply because of my marriage not gay enough? Could someone send me the checklist? Was there a meeting I missed out on? Surely, I thought, at least I’d get some points for, you know, being married to a man.
