It’s not as if I think Americans have put bigotry behind them. Not at all. And it seemed equally ludicrous to me that, while all this was going on behind the scenes and journalists were wondering if America was “ready” for a gay president, I also had reporters asking me things like “Do you think people will only vote for your husband because he’s gay?” “Honey,” I wished I could reply, “I think people will vote against my husband because he’s gay.”