We must go through the stages of feeling, not only the last death but all the earlier little deaths. If we abort these emotional stages by easy answers, all they do is take a deeper form of disguise and come out in another way. So many people learn that the hard way — by getting ulcers, by all kinds of internal diseases, depression, irritability, and misdirected anger — because they refuse to let their emotions run their course or to find some appropriate place to share them.
